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Grit, Grace, and Uncertainty: My Brief Reflections

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“I don’t know exactly what’s next, but I’m stepping forward with grit, anchored in grace” -Julie Graham I’m not much of a sailor (yet), and the most I can do on a boat is head over to the buffet line… But I definitely appreciate this image of us stepping forward into fearful uncertainties with grit, “anchored” in grace.   For …

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Among My Hungry Ghosts: Hearing Grief Speak In Writing

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On those days when my grief is especially eager for my attention, I see it gnaw at me like a horde of hungry ghosts. Importantly, I’ve been expressing my grief and continuing my healing, by allowing my imagination to run wild through what I love: writing.  As a general definition, hungry ghosts are condemned to a hellish existence where they’re …

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Here’s How Hate Betrays Us After Surviving Infidelity

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If you’ve ever loved deeply and been betrayed, you’re likely familiar with how hate can seduce us with a sense of justified contempt. But I’ve noticed how this sort of fierce resentment can soak into our bones and make things worse for ourselves. I confess: after being betrayed by the infidelity of someone I once loved deeply, my anger initially began to …

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Here’s Why I Felt Too Scared to Buy Candy in 1986

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When I was 6 or 7-years old, I panicked about the silliest things. My anxiety got pretty bad sometimes–Like that time I felt too scared to buy candy from the nice lady at the local convenience store. During the 1980’s and 1990’s, sorting out all of my different emotions was really tough as a kid. I cried easily (more than others my age, I think), …

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How To Deal With Life Changes When Your Dreams Die

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Isn’t it crazy when life changes for you all of a sudden? I’m sure you don’t need a random guy on the internet to give you examples of how life really changes for you. But, since I’d like to say something thoughtful about cats, toilet-training and milk, I’m going to anyway. Here, I’ll reflect on one of the most important …

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In Memory of the Wonderful Mom I Loved and Lost

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As my mouth slowly curved upwards to kiss my own falling tears, I closed my eyes and looked for Mom in the place I knew she’d always be. It had been 4 years since Mom died from heart disease in 2005. One night, an unusual memory of Mom found me. And it absolutely transformed my life. Read on and discover what it was.

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How to Overcome Culture Shock: 6 Tips for International Students

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Maybe you don’t know what to feel anymore. At first, you definitely remember screaming out with joy when you saw that college acceptance letter. You squealed so loudly that your friends, coworkers or parents rushed over thinking you had some emergency.  And all they saw was your shining, beaming smile. Heck, you even remember everyone cheering you on. Now you’re …