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You're striving for feelings born from perfect days...

You wake up feeling like it's Christmas morning, everyday.

Even the rainy evenings simply mean nights of laughter over random cat videos with mugs of Belgium hot chocolate; or for some of us, red bean soup.

But, every so often, life brings people like you and me something horribly unexpected...Devastating grief.

Maybe your loss has shattered how you thought life would, could, or even should be...

Whether you're grieving the death of a loved one, making sense of a divorce or breakup, frustrated about how your career turned out, or experienced loss of any kind...


Perhaps the hardest part for you right now is...

  • feeling alone, empty and isolated.

  • wishing more people knew how tough this really is (e.g. well-meaning people from your personal life, work, or daily life think you should be "moving on" or "over it" by now).

  • feeling like everything you've worked for comes to nothing. You're frustrated, sad, and pissed off whenever memories return.

  • how your creative spark has faded or strangely disappeared.

  • the sheer exhaustion of managing, understanding, and learning about grief.

  • __[fill in the blank]___

It gets really tough sometimes, no matter if it's been hours, days, months or years.


While I cannot imagine how hard it's been for you in your unique pain and unique situation...

Trust me, friend, I get how intense grief can be from my own personal stories of grief.

Now I’ve developed some key beliefs along the way:

  • I believe it's okay to feel like it's not okay...I'll help you create meaningful ways to cope with pain. If you're ready, I'll help you create a profound life, at your own pace.

  • I believe you deserve the fullest life with hope, joy & love. I’m dedicated to provide you with the resources & training to help infuse this truth in your blood, bones, & soul.

  • I believe humour and quirkiness is sometimes exactly what we need. (e.g. imagine cats + unicorns sipping Earl Grey tea in a blue phone booth).

In a nutshell, wherever you are through your journey of loss and grief...

I'm glad you're here.

If you wish, I invite you to book a free 15-minute coaching consultation with me, and let me know how it's going for you.

This initial chat isn't technically a coaching session, but an informal chat to get to know each other and see if there's a mutual fit for a longer term coaching relationship.

Just imagine we're having a "virtual coffee". We'll chat via video or voice online.

To request a consultation, simply click the time that works best for you in my calendar below:

About Dr. Nathan To

I'm dedicated to teaching life-long learners how to forge meaningful life paths after experiencing painful loss. In fact, I've invested 3 psychology degrees and dedicated nearly 10 years of life researching trauma, grief, and our human capacity for grit and resilience--not just how we survive our painful losses, but how we thrive, create, and transform our lives on a new path. If you're still curious about me and my story, feel free to read more about me on the CounterStory About page.

Nathan To, PhD
Certified Clinical Counsellor
Consultant & Founder, The CounterStory Project

Quirky fun fact: Nathan named one of his cats after a Cantonese "dim sum" dish (shrimp dumpling).

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